We have to learn to love who we’ve become despite what it cost that we never knew we’d have to pay. We’re not responsible for the actions of others who damage us, for whatever reason, we are responsible for how we respond. 

I have my biological mother to thank for that lesson. As a former foster child I’m beyond thankful for the statistics I didn’t become. Loving my daughter without the shadow of fear I’d repeat history required forgiving my biological mother for everything. 

The experience of giving a mother’s love not only cast out fear it brought a divine freedom, hope, courage, and strength to be my best for her (my daughter) and for myself. 

Mother’s Day pained me for almost a decade and a half as a former foster child and birth mother who gave up a child for adoption. Those feelings have been gone for many years. Today and every day I cherish being a Mother. 

I celebrated my Mom (foster mom) yesterday and have been basking in the blessing of my daughter’s love all weekend. The beautiful son God trusted me to birth whose adoptive mother raised and loved as her own expressed his love, in his own way on social media as well. 

All the time I gave to fear, doubt, unforgiveness, and shame taught me to “carpe diem” every moment after being free from the agony of it all. There is no way to go back and change anything, and truth is I don’t want to change a thing. My hope and prayer is other women will be open to receive the love from God that will ease the pain, comfort of the Holy Spirit to learn from each experience, and walk in the courage of hope to expect a better today and tomorrow. 

Being orphaned sucks. Giving your child up for adoption because you know its best for both of you is unforgettable. Finding the strength, love, and knowing you’re worth the effort to make the rest of your life the best life possible each day is priceless. Never forget no matter what your path to motherhood has been in God’s eyes you are worth dying for and his son came for you to have the option to keep living. 

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