Bringing two lives together and making them one is much more complex than we believe it is the day we say “I do” or “I will”. When we light the candles or pour the sand we look forward to a bright and beautiful experience to help make us one. What I learned in the fourth year of marriage is that becoming one flesh is more than physical intimacy and about more than a one time verbal covenant. Becoming one flesh is merging and melting two lives together and agreeing on what you desire as a couple as more important than what you want for yourself alone.